It sounds like we have similar handlebar preferences. On one of my bikes I went from a RaceFace Next R carbon bar (35mm dia. and 35mm rise) to the carbon SQlab (31.6mm dia, 16 degree backsweep, and 30mm rise). The SQlab bar is way stiffer than the RaceFace (yes, you heard that right) but I've come to realize that the increased backsweep plays a much greater role in reducing wrist, hand, and finger numbness and pain than does compliance. I don't even notice the stiffness anymore.
On my other bike I went from the carbon RaceFace Next SL bars (31.6mm dia. and 20 degree rise) to the carbon OneUp bars (35mm dia. and 35 degree rise). The OneUp bars are definitely more compliant but that compliance only translates to a small reduction in the pain and numbness. I've reached the conclusion that increased backsweep has a much greater effect on reducing hand and wrist issues than does compliance. Even though I just purchased the OneUp bars four months ago, I'll be replacing them with SQlab bars in the not-too-distant future. I don't want this to sound like I'm bashing OneUp. They're a well-made, compliant handlebar but in my case the increased compliance didn't solve my issues.
If you decide to go with the SQlab bars, I'd recommend the 16 degree backsweep; don't bother with the 12 degree. Also the SQlab 30mm rise bar is comparable to a 20mm rise in the RaceFace bar so you might consider the 45mm rise if you want a bar that ends up at 30 - 35mm rise. The 16 degree backsweep will put your grips a little closer to your body so you might need to go with a shorter stem.
Hopefully this helps out. If not, hit me up again.