Yikes. Condolences to everyone involved. Mountain biking has its dangers, but I'd hope that servicing your own bike shouldn't be one of them.
My first time I worked on a fork I let all the air pressure out, then tried to get the air spring out of the stanchion, and it took some effort, and when it "popped" out, part of it did fly across the garage a ways (a wave spring IIRC from a A1 soloair yari). Just because I was pulling against a now negative air spring (as the fork was compressed some during the air release).
EDIT: To be clear, I had the whole airshaft in my hands, and was overcoming the negative pressure that existed because the air shaft was compressed when the pressure was let out (because more air would come out the valve if I compressed it). So it was a "use two hands and pull" sort of situation, not a "this is a deadly projectile" sort of situation (although the wave washer did fly a few feet when I yanked it out).
Now I always take the valve core out/top of the air spring side off before I pull the air spring. Makes it way easier, and safer.