Our brains like to pull evenly on both levers. I like to have a smaller rotor in the rear to keep the finger pressure the same at threshold.
For the most part a 203mm will not stop you any faster than a 160. You just don't have to pull as hard with a bigger rotor. For scrubbing speed on steep hills or repeated stops larger rotors will preform more consistently and have a higher thermal load.
I find that I have a natural leaver pull where I have the best feel and modulation. A 203/180 combo works the best for me. 195lb and very steep terrain.
I'm going to disagree with that, the first part, and then partially the 2nd part.
For the first part, your brain adapts, it's likely no problem at all pulling harder on one and softer and the other. We can do things like look through up-side-down goggles and our brain will eventually flip it to look "correct", in general ,we are highly adaptable. If the modulation is crappy, this can be a bit more of a problem, but as long as there's some modulation, and the rear brake by nature is usually more sluggish anyway, it's not really an issue.
On the 2nd point, yes, I have smaller rotors on 2 of my bikes, BUT, you tend to drag the rear brake a lot more for control, not the tire, but the brake, so it tends to get used more. On cars, you'll see some with smaller rear rotors, although I've had some high performance cars recently that had even larger rotors in the rear, although the brake was smaller. I'd reckon that what you really want is the same size rotor and a smaller brake caliper, like if you are running a 2-piston saint up front, then an XT in the rear, with the same size rotor. There's a good discussion on this on Ridemonkey. Now, if you are ok changing out pads, possibly more frequently, then disregard, and remember I run smaller in the rear on two of my bikes, so I'm by no means telling anyone to run out and go put a larger rotor on the rear.
I have noticed that the ice-tech stuff works pretty well. On steep descents where I used to bake 6" disc brakes, with the finned ice-tech rotors I've been able to ride my XC race bike during multi-thousand foot descents with nary a fade issue, and I distinctly remember having fade issues on these descents. I remember I had some issues on some super steep DH stuff on my bigger bike and switched that out to ice-techs too last year, and again, big improvement for heat-resistance for me. Seems to really work. It's only one component of braking obviously, so it doesn't mean it'll be an end-all solution to braking, but it works.
Bigger riders riding steep stuff with heavy or large (29) rims/tires need a lot of brake.