I'm hoping this thread stays on topic. There are plenty of resources online to learn how to install and adjust shift levers.
Regarding the topic of Shimano 12 speed XTR and XT levers breaking, I don't think there's any way to operate the shift lever in a manner that makes failure more likely. Even pushing hard against the downshift stop doesn't stress the rocker spring that breaks. Half-shifting or any other 'wrong' way of shifting doesn't stress the spring in a manner that would make it break. However, those of us who ride in hilly areas and, therefore, shift more frequently, are going to see faster failure than those riding in relatively flat areas. That's because the defective rocker spring, when it flexes enough times, breaks without any warning. Then, you can still downshift when gravity puts the rocker by luck in the proper position, but the lever is basically toast. Can't be fixed. Only replaced.
I think it's a good idea for everyone with a failed shift lever to call Shimano warranty and speak directly with a human being (if that's possible for you depending on where you're located). First, you're more likely to get a replacement sent out to you quickly for free. I've received two replacements like that directly from Shimano. My other two replacements were from the bike shops where I bought them and that took a lot more time. In one case, the LBS charged me for "postage"--$25 US! Secondly, I'm hoping that the more direct verbal feedback Shimano gets, the more likely they'll publicize that they fixed the problem--when and if they finally do fix it permanently.