O/T. What to do when women throws a tandtrum??

macming said:

Mine always seems to get mad at very little things a lot, and then she just won't talk to me, and expects me to make her happy again. This happens at least 3-4 times a week.

I'm getting pretty fed up, and I'm just wondering what you guys do when your women get mad???

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This is simple if you're not living together or married. When she throws one of her little tantrums just say "grow up" and walk away... Catering to this behavior will only make matters worse in the long run as she will know that she can CONTROL you by throwing a fit.

It sounds like your relationship with this gal is waning, hopefully you're not in too deep (married, kids etc.). Best to let her know ASAP that this thing isn't going to last if she doesn't learn how to act like an adult. Life is too short and there are too many good women out there to be tied up with a princess (b!tch??) like that.

I will agree with Formicas reply above that improving frequency and quality of sex will help a relationship but I completely disagree with his suggesting that do everything she says and (trying) to read her mind. (I HOPE he was kidding!) You're doing these things will only enable the CONTROL mechanisim she is using.

Did I mention that she uses these fits as a form of CONTROL?...and she probably doesn't even know it .

Well, since you asked...

I just walk away.

The reality is that the first time someone rips on you it is their fault.
The second time it happens it is half your fault for still being there.

People who cap on others don't really love themselves. They usually tear into others for shortcomings that they see in themselves. Someone who does not love themself cannot love anyone else. Loving yourself involves, in part, forgiving yourself for your imperfections. There are many gals in my life who are cool, self loving and enlightend persons. The problem is that these women are all taken by very lucky people (guys & gals). I am happy for them.

Here is the most liberating thing that I have ever learned: There is nothing that happens to anyone that is stressful, until that person decides it is stressful. I can't say I am perfect in following the wisdom of the previous observation, but it has helped me get thru some times that would have been really rotten if my perception of the events had shifted to focus on the dark side.

The fact that I have my boundaries and limitations so well established for these kind of issues may have something to do with the fact that I am single and have never been married. Things could be way worse if I had made a wrong choice in a partner a permanent one.

I'm often wondering why so many folk here in the states are addicted to the trauma/drama thing. The Euro gals that I have gotten to know seem to be way more rational when it comes to being easy to deal with. I may move to Switzerland, I have family there.

Good luck!

29erchico