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Meeting women on the trail!!!

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crashedandburned

Discussion Starter · Dec 13, 2005

No, this isn't one of those "how can I meet a cool chick who rides?" post. What I'm wonder is how do guys and women react to meeting out on the trail if they are riding solo. Reason I'm asking is that today I was jogging my normal route on base today. Not far from where I normally turn around I passed a female Marine going the other way. No big deal, we nod an acknowledgement of each other and go about our way. About 50 yrds up was my turnaround, so I turned around and was heading in the same direction as she was. Now she was going at a nice pace, but I was slowly catching up to her. At an intersection where I go up a hill to the only dirt trail on base I see her looking back at me as she heads up the trail. "Oh Great" I figure. Well, I head up the trail myself as I always do. This leads to a pretty isolated spot before it rejoins another road on the other side. I like running it because it puts a few more hills into my run. Anyhow I notice her looking back at me and by now I'm sure she's thinking some bad thoughts in her head because she jogs off the trail and walks towards the river. I just keep on going without saying anything and not looking back. I know that when I rejoined the road and had jogged down a little ways, I did look back and never saw her come out of the trail as I went around the corner. Figure she got scared and went back the other way.

I know that when I'm on the trail if I meet a solo female rider I usually say hi, but keep on riding. If they are broke down, I'll roll up to them like anyone else and offer help and if they say no thanks I say bye and just keep going. Whereas if it were a guy I'm more likely to stop and BS for awhile. I just don't want to give her the feeling that I'm going to do something bad and just feel it's better to keep going rather than put her in that kind of situation.

Do you guys and gals feel the same way?

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Call_me_Clyde

· #2 · Dec 13, 2005

A friendly hello to all

Regardless of gender I typically give a smile and a friendly hello and go about my business. I rarely, if ever stop and chat. Not trying to be rude, but I just go about my business. If I'm stopped for a break and someone else stops, I'm more likely to start a conversation at that point.

Bob

SHIVER ME TIMBERS

· #3 · Dec 13, 2005

just say hello so you don't look creepy

crashedandburned

Discussion Starter · #4 · Dec 13, 2005

SHIVER ME TIMBERS said:
just say hello so you don't look creepy

Is staring slacked jawed and bug-eyed at her breast creepy????

Dude

· #5 · Dec 13, 2005

Only if you don't

crashedandburned said:
Is staring slacked jawed and bug-eyed at her breast creepy????

Only if you don't give her mother the same respect...

Call_me_Clyde

· #6 · Dec 13, 2005

If you're going to stare

crashedandburned said:
Is staring slacked jawed and bug-eyed at her breast creepy????

Stare at both breasts

Lest one might feel left out.

Bikehigh

· #7 · Dec 13, 2005

No. Other than sureptitiously snagging a down blouse view if she's got the zipper down, I pretty much do the exact same thing. I say hi, and keep on going. If a breast is hanging out, or if you can see nip, staring slack jawed and bug eyed is perfectly appropriate.

I don't know what you could have done different in your situation. It was just pure chance that you crossed paths with her 50 yards before your turnaround. Her bolting into the woods was probably not the smartest idea if she was really worried about you being a rapist, but what the hell.

RobW

· #8 · Dec 13, 2005

It's a sad state of affairs that the gals might/could/should feel weird when guys cross their paths doing stuff we all love, but c'est la vie, no? I do the same thing, say hi, or ask if they need help, depending on the situation, and keep going. Don't want to creep them out...

Caffeine Powered

· #9 · Dec 13, 2005

Are female Marines different than other types of females? I mean other than the extra body hair and muscles... I mean really, treat her has you would any other woman you know. Or better still treat her as you would your sister or mother... with respect and courtesy and you'll be fine. It shouldn't matter whether you're in a bar, sitting in a foxhole or running on a trail.

endoMaster

· #10 · Dec 13, 2005

I make it a point to just say Hello and keep on going. I've had experiences ( not while mountian biking) where my being friendly was misconstrued and I was told to "F" off. Ever since I've been leery of offering help to single women regardless of the situation or setting.

VA2SLOride

· #11 · Dec 13, 2005 (Edited)

Well no wonder....

endoMaster said:
I make it a point to just say Hello and keep on going. I've had experiences ( not while mountian biking) where my being friendly was misconstrued and I was told to "F" off. Ever since I've been leery of offering help to single women regardless of the situation or setting.

...forget it.

micky

· #12 · Dec 13, 2005

Next time you see her see if she wants to run with you

I am also a masters swimmer, and I met my wife thru swimming. Years before that I belonged to a gym and I met someone there and talked to them and that led to a relationship.

Open your mouth and start talking (and hope to God you dont say anything stupid or insulting). You never know what will happen.

Good luck.

BundokBiker

· #13 · Dec 13, 2005

nothing wrong with being friendly

and asking a couple simple questions...

single guy: "hi"
single gal: no response, just a grunt.
single guy: "have a nice ride/hike/run, see ya." continues activity.

guy: "hi"
gal: "hello"
guy: "is this your usual route? I don't notice many people at this time of day."
gal: "I usually ride ______ trail, but wanted to try something different."
guy: "great trail!" (always throw in a positive reinforcement statement, people in general like validation) "you might want to try this route ...., I usually enjoy it."

if you keep getting positive responses keep going with it. if you can't tell if you're getting a positive response from her... then you're not. time to leave.

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SHIVER ME TIMBERS

· #14 · Dec 13, 2005

crashedandburned said:
Is staring slacked jawed and bug-eyed at her breast creepy????

standard way I meet girls...I am so starved

crashedandburned

Discussion Starter · #15 · Dec 13, 2005

I appreciate the advice, but I think you may miss the point of my post. I wasn't/am not looking for a GF. Already have one. Not that I can't appreciate the the view.

I was basically wondering do any other guys feel the same way I do about meeting up w/ females on the trail and just trying not to creep them out. While I have met some that don't have a problem and have been exceptionally cool, there are others, like the jogger today, who would view me as trouble.

I wouldn't do anything to anyone unless threatened. I can understand why women would be cautious while out alone in the woods/back road or anyplace that's remote and go out of my way to be as little as a threat as possible. Some stories that I've heard from old GF's and other women make me a bit leary of striking up a conversation w/ one while riding just to be friendly.

I also hate the fact that this lady felt threatened of me even though I was just doing my daily routine.

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crashedandburned

Discussion Starter · #16 · Dec 13, 2005

SHIVER ME TIMBERS said:
standard way I meet girls...I am so starved

The best way to do it is to pretend you are choking. When she comes up, spin around really fast and throw your arms around her in a big hug!

Dwight Moody

· #17 · Dec 14, 2005

crashedandburned said:
I know that when I rejoined the road and had jogged down a little ways, I did look back and never saw her come out of the trail as I went around the corner. Figure she got scared and went back the other way.

I walked into my dorm common room one night around 3am. This woman I'd seen around was in there making some tea, but as soon as she saw it was me walking in she took off through the other door like a freaking deer.

I hung out for a few minutes, then turned off her teapot so it didn't scorch and left. I guess she just didn't want to be alone with a man at 3am (we were both fully dressed, it's not like I caught her up to something). We knew each other by sight, and I apologized to her for scaring her the next time I saw her, and she mumbled something in reply.

Her reaction was definitely a little crazy, but at the time there was an active serial rapist in the state forest land abutting our end of campus. Of course, my hair was about three feet longer than the guy in the police sketch, but it was late.

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Anonymous

· #18 · Dec 14, 2005

I admit I didn't read all the posts, but I gotta say; Grow a sack and introduce yourself. Say Hi and ask if you can join her for lunch, a cup of coffee, dinner, or a hockey game. Whatever. Hate to promote Nike, but just do it! The only actions I've ever regretted are the ones I didn't take.
Sack up and be a man!
Chicks Like Men.
Chicks dont like wussies!
Sack up, Marine!
Ohh Rah!

Sorry. Sometimes I go too far, btu the basic advise still rings true.

Bikehigh

· #19 · Dec 14, 2005

crashedandburned said:
I was basically wondering do any other guys feel the same way I do about meeting up w/ females on the trail and just trying not to creep them out.

Look, due to whatever, some chicks are gonna react in a way ha tis just hard to explain. This chick is one of them. All you can do is chalk it up to her bad life experiences, and hope she doesn't call the cops telling them you chased her into the woods, when it's her own fears that drove her there. You sure can't shade her through the woods screaming, "I'm not gonna rape you, I'm not gonna rape you!" Sometimes you just have to cut your losses.

AndrewTO

· #20 · Dec 14, 2005

"How's it going?" is enough to tell if someone DOES want to talk with you, regardless of gender. Results?.....

A guy too busy training, in full "uniform", simply grunted in reply once.

A young lady, similar to my trail riding speed (just talking trail riding, not tail riding) knodded and said "Good" once (oh goody!). We met up a few times through a trail section, exchanging lead, and then she disappeared.

I guess she was too slow.

EDIT - SORRY ladies, that last part didn't come out right.

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