[dadstoy]

Yup,..just like it says. The other day, my son (9yr), asked me where babies come from. He thought from the butthole . But I said no, and that one day very soon, we will sit down and have a good talk.
How far did you go into detail?
How old were your boys when you had that talk?
Did you go briefly into the oral sex topic?

I know my boy will be a shirt chaser,...he's already been noticing older girls around him. :nono:

 

[Wherewolf]

Dr. Phil forum?

...I know my boy will be a shirt chaser,...he's already been noticing older girls around him. :nono:

I thought this was a mountain biking forum? But if your son is chasing shirts, not skirts, he may be gay. Not that there is anything wrong with that.

 

[dadstoy]

Oh sh**,..sorry,..I meant skirt, hahaha. Yeah,..you're right about the MTB forum. I thought the General Discussion was open to anything.
My bad.

 

[ArmySlowRdr]

Oh sh**,..sorry,..I meant skirt, hahaha. Yeah,..you're right about the MTB forum. I thought the General Discussion was open to anything.
My bad.

Post whatever yo wish in general; I wished more would do the same. The sister site, Road Bike review, has a lounge. MTBR lacks one. And since not too many people post up non bike related stuff, there continues to not be one. I believe many or being influenced by a few that there's something wrong with sharing every day life stuff here. Where supposed to go ? Face book? sheesh.

 

[dadstoy]

Yeah,..no facebook for me. I thought since there's mostly men here, that I'd get a few hits and ideas. I would like to see "other" topics come up as well.

 

[Trail Ninja]

Yup,..just like it says. The other day, my son (9yr), asked me where babies come from. He thought from the butthole . But I said no, and that one day very soon, we will sit down and have a good talk.
How far did you go into detail?
How old were your boys when you had that talk?
Did you go briefly into the oral sex topic?

I know my boy will be a shirt chaser,...he's already been noticing older girls around him. :nono:

At about the same age I had the talk with both my boys. A clinical discussion of the mechanics of intercourse and childbirth using the terms of 9 year old children of the day to describe body parts. the oldest was well aware by that time and I just confirmed what he already suspected. The youngest was grateful for the information and didn't find it traumatic or funny.

I briefly touched on relationships but just superficially. At 53, I'm still not confident in my knowledge or understanding of relationships with women although I have been married or in a committed relationship for 40 of those years.

As for any sexual intimacy beyond regular intercourse and procreation. That's for experimentation and discovery. Let them learn it on their own. That's where the fun is.

 

[milehi]

I briefly touched on relationships but just superficially. At 53, I'm still not confident in my knowledge or understanding of relationships with women although I have been married or in a committed relationship for 40 of those years.

The birds and the bees was the easy part. Dealing with my son's girlfriends' insane Kardashian moms is a chore.

 

[Surestick Malone]

At about the same age I had the talk with both my boys. A clinical discussion of the mechanics of intercourse and childbirth using the terms of 9 year old children of the day to describe body parts. the oldest was well aware by that time and I just confirmed what he already suspected. The youngest was grateful for the information and didn't find it traumatic or funny.

I briefly touched on relationships but just superficially. At 53, I'm still not confident in my knowledge or understanding of relationships with women although I have been married or in a committed relationship for 40 of those years.

As for any sexual intimacy beyond regular intercourse and procreation. That's for experimentation and discovery. Let them learn it on their own. That's where the fun is.

You've been in as committed relationship since you were 13?!?

 

[joshman108]

ya dont talk about oral. Just cover the basics and tell him to go read a book when hes older and alot more mature

 

[@dam]

I'd just be straight up and matter of fact, rather than shameful and taboo.

Here's a great video on the female side of "the talk"

 

[Trail Ninja]

You've been in as committed relationship since you were 13?!?

Yup. That girl and I have been in love for 40 years. We were together for 15 years but not all in a row. Now that I'm not married, we're thinking about another kick at the can. It's been 20 years since I've seen her. It drove my wife batty that I was in love with another woman but I told her that when met her. After 20 years of marriage some of my friends were still calling my wife Heidi. My wife's name was Tracy.

This is actually a good example of why not to discuss relationships with your children.

 

[UEDan]

Ehhh hes a dude, you don't have to do anything, he'll learn everything from school and pornography, he'll be fine.... like me =)



Oh wait,... next time he asks. Just tell him. Straight out. Guy sticks penis in vagina, months later baby comes out. Now that I'm a little bit older I kinda wished my parents actually did that.

 

[deuxdiesel]

I teach Health to middle school students, and 5th grade (around 10 y.o.) is where this starts. I agree completely with the others- discuss the mechanics of sex using proper terminology and with clinical detachment. At that age, most children can't handle the emotional components, but they do have many questions about the physical components. I would suggest you check with the local library for resources, or PM me and I will make copies of what I use and send them to you. I have to say, it is such a disservice to children to talk in terms of slang because of embarrassment- I have heard some very interesting euphemisms for the reproductive anatomy.

 

[NW_Vermont]

Like others said...

Age appropriate terms w/ focus on mechanics.

Talking is the most important part.

Don't be embarrassed, shy or shameful about the subject. Heck sex and attraction is part of our everyday life. It's why we're here. You can't buy a toaster or drive by a billboard without some attractive chick or dude trying to get your attention.

And another observation of mine... I bet the OP's 9year old has seen violence in TV and movies- mad use of guns, death, blood, ripping flesh, etc. But being human (sex) is taboo?

Okay, that sound you hear is me stepping off my soapbox.

 

[GFAthens]

I have to say, it is such a disservice to children to talk in terms of slang because of embarrassment- I have heard some very interesting euphemisms for the reproductive anatomy.

+1 on this. If you don't use your childrens slang in regular conversation with them, why use it during an important and serious discussion? I think most 9-10 y.o.'s will be mature and intelligent enough to hear the actual clinical terms.

 

[Sheepo5669]

when my dad had one with me it was more awkward than anything. I already knew about all that stuff from friend talk and porno. I feel like thats all my lunch table talked about for three years. :thumbsup: I think i was an expert by 13.

Bottom line is, if you are comfortable doing the talk, by all means do it.

But by no means, in this day and age, is it necessary.(maybe for girls it is)

Sheepo

 

[jeffscott]

Yup,..just like it says. The other day, my son (9yr), asked me where babies come from. He thought from the butthole . But I said no, and that one day very soon, we will sit down and have a good talk.
How far did you go into detail?
How old were your boys when you had that talk?
Did you go briefly into the oral sex topic?

I know my boy will be a shirt chaser,...he's already been noticing older girls around him. :nono:

should have told him straight up and got a book to show the anatomy then to the grocery store to see a pregnant lady.

 

[Pedalphile]

I'm not allowed to talk to young boys.

 

[Blksocks]

lol, you guys and your examples.

Just tell him it isn't his time to know. Have him wait till he's 12. At that time just explain it to him... But, seriously, it's not like he wont know from hearing it from the "cool" kids in school.

Oi... Kids...:cryin:

 

[NW_Vermont]

Dad: "Son, it's time we had a talk about sex"

Son: "Okay, Dad...What do you want to know?"