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She broke my heart in a flurry of soft words and broken promises. "You deserve better," and "I still want to be friends" haunted the empty halls of my mind for the weeks to follow. The pain was excrutiating, more than I expected, but hey I should've expected it, her being my first love and all. It was like someone had crushed my ribs and squeezed out my insides like an orange. "Friendship? Why the hell would I want that? So I can watch you date other guys?! F*** YOU!" Jealously drove me mad. Thoughts of her seeing anyone else burned through me like hellfire igniting a rage that melted away at whatever rational was left. All this accumulated into an anger I had never felt before. For the first time, I knew what it was to hate. And yet I couldn't stop thinking about her. Thoughts of her pounded away at my sanity like a million jackhammers. Keeping busy didn't work. everything reminded me of her. Breathing reminded me of her. It wasn't until a few months after when I felt hopeless that a buddy of mine reminded me of my true first love. She had two wheels and an assortment of gears and would be loyal to whoever wanted to ride. It had been 5 years since I rode one, but it didn't take me long to get reacquainted. The pure joy I felt spinning away at the crank, while my legs turned into battery acid, snapped me back into my old self. I smiled and laughed with the ground passing beneath me and the wind blowing through me, tickling my head. And a month ago, I bought my own mountain bike and haven't looked back since. With every mile, I chipped away at the monster that she had helped create. And now I'm writing this, not wanting to talk to my friends for fear of the dreaded "I told you so" speech. And in my short 20 year existence on this earth, I've rediscovered something that makes me happy everytime.
 

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Same here. Women will come and go, and you will lose good ones along the way, but your bike, your health, your sanity, these are what you control. Being newly single as well, actually is quite nice for a change. I can ride whenever for however long I want. I went from riding 3 times a week to 6 times a week. The satisfaction on the bike is so simple and non-nagging. Just keep pedaling away, one day you'll bump into "her" and then bye bye free bikey time.
 

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not necessarily...

Capt_phun said:
Just keep pedaling away, one day you'll bump into "her" and then bye bye free bikey time.
If it weren't for her heavy patient load, my wife would be in the saddle 7 days a week. She'll probably join us on Saturday's ride at the shuffle. She was the first to make the jump from entry-level bike to an IF Special. She was the first of us to make the jump to full suspension. Now she's taken on the task of getting us road bikes.

Significant others and cycling are not necessarily diametrically opposed. See you tomorrow, Captain!
 

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True true. My ex and I used to bike and it was fun, but in NJ most girls are more interested in the mall not biking. Maybe I'll find me a nice WV girl and I can finally be a hick in peace and not out of place (not a dig at WV, I really just want to be a simple hick).
 

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good for you!

I've learned after several pointless relationships with non-MTB guys that biking should always be a priority ;) All that time I wasted dating them instead of biking!! WTF was I thinking?! I'd be a GREAT rider by now!

Riding can break your bones and crack your ego but the heartbreaking moments are temporary- I feel "heartbroken" when the weather doesn't cooperate or if I can't bike for some other reason.
 

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Better!

Better get me a bucket.....

Congrats on riding your bike more.

Ken
 

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No need to be heartbroken Christine...

Christine said:
I've learned after several pointless relationships with non-MTB guys that biking should always be a priority ;) All that time I wasted dating them instead of biking!! WTF was I thinking?! I'd be a GREAT rider by now!

Riding can break your bones and crack your ego but the heartbreaking moments are temporary- I feel "heartbroken" when the weather doesn't cooperate or if I can't bike for some other reason.
Hey I'm a single MTN biker guy!!! Practically your neighbor in NJ!
Lets go ride :)
 

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I've rediscovered something that makes me happy everytime.
Sounds like the bike helped you rediscover YOU.....which is the person we tend to forget about when we turn our attention to love. Only you can make YOU happy.....A mountain bike is one of the best tools to help you though.

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I am sorry man .. i but i feel ya

I went to the beach last week, drove 3 hours to see my g/f where she told me she hooked up w/ another guy twice at the clubs. We have been dating for 5 years, and she told me she wanted a break. She said we have been dating since we were 16 and she wants to see what else is out there. WHAT THE F IS A BREAK. Any way i have been drinking my self into a slumber for the past 5 days and yesterday was the last draw. I cant drink my self down anymore. I was suppose to do a group ride monday that fell through and we are planing one for tmw. I am just giong to devote my passion into riding, instead of trying to split it w/ her.

Thanks for your post. It was what i needed to read. My roomate thanks you too. I think he was tired of picking me up at the bar :(

Sho
 

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excellent!

Only YOU can make YOu truly happy
when my life went to hell a few months ago I turned to mountain biking.
a co-worker sold me his hard tail bike

I could barely ride a mile day 1

Now I can spend hours on the trails - cheaper and better than a shrink. Healthier than drinking till comatose - utlimately rewadring, fun, a challenge and a good sense of accomplishment

QUOTE=Spoondy]She broke my heart in a flurry of soft words and broken promises. "You deserve better," and "I still want to be friends" haunted the empty halls of my mind for the weeks to follow. The pain was excrutiating, more than I expected, but hey I should've expected it, her being my first love and all. It was like someone had crushed my ribs and squeezed out my insides like an orange. "Friendship? Why the hell would I want that? So I can watch you date other guys?! F*** YOU!" Jealously drove me mad. Thoughts of her seeing anyone else burned through me like hellfire igniting a rage that melted away at whatever rational was left. All this accumulated into an anger I had never felt before. For the first time, I knew what it was to hate. And yet I couldn't stop thinking about her. Thoughts of her pounded away at my sanity like a million jackhammers. Keeping busy didn't work. everything reminded me of her. Breathing reminded me of her. It wasn't until a few months after when I felt hopeless that a buddy of mine reminded me of my true first love. She had two wheels and an assortment of gears and would be loyal to whoever wanted to ride. It had been 5 years since I rode one, but it didn't take me long to get reacquainted. The pure joy I felt spinning away at the crank, while my legs turned into battery acid, snapped me back into my old self. I smiled and laughed with the ground passing beneath me and the wind blowing through me, tickling my head. And a month ago, I bought my own mountain bike and haven't looked back since. With every mile, I chipped away at the monster that she had helped create. And now I'm writing this, not wanting to talk to my friends for fear of the dreaded "I told you so" speech. And in my short 20 year existence on this earth, I've rediscovered something that makes me happy everytime.[/QUOTE]
 

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I hear ya. But there is still a period of mourning. Where you feel lost and confused. For the last five years i have based every decision i have made w/ her in mind. Its kinda hard just changing that. Now i wasnt wipped (completly .. all in love are alittle wipped :p ), i still got to ride and hang w/ my boys many times a week. But i would still let her know where i was going. Its the changing of the habits that is hard. Not being able to pick up the phone after a ride and tell her that you wrecked, then her not understand why you ride. Its the little things i miss, just having her around.

But what i do remember is that i always have a clear head when i am riding. I dont think about anything but, keep them cranks moving, where my line .. wheres my line .. DAMMIT i could have taken that switch back faster. And i remember that i am happy when i ride. I am not happy when i am drunk off my ass talking garbage. SO ITS TIME TO MOVE ON. Starting w/ tmw group ride .. unless mother natures decides to rain again :mad:

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I know the obsession. It was the worst for me several years ago when I hated what I had become due to my suspicion, desire for revenge, etc. I was not me anymore. I didn't have a bike at the time, but my getting one within a year (DUI) changed the course of the rest of my life.

I've also heard the words. And you know what? It's true. The good part is...& you can look forward to this...is: years later, when she calls you up & wants to see if you might be available for some action; you can deny her due to one of several factors (mine being that she had gotten a bit chubby & I had long since gotten over her after suffering for a looong ass time & now could look at her clearly for what she was, someone who had personality traits that made her completely unattractive).

Time is the cure. A trusty steed helps.
 

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Thanks for all of your guy's input. Still hurts but nowhere close to what it used to be. I'm content now. I still have some habits I've picked up but those are slowly fading away. I'm just glad to see that other people have experienced the same damn thing and how they're all feeling so much better thanks to a simple mechanical wonder. happy riding all.
 

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Sobered up

:D Now that i am sobered up .. i am going riding tonite. And its going to be wonderful, b/c i wont be thinking about her. Thanks again for your post, it really did help me alot!

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Brings back some memories of my divorce and my reaquantince with a bike....At the time the divorce seemed like the end of the world, the worst thing that could have happened....Fast forward seven years...I'm about to get married again to a fellow MTB addict and getting prepped for a 2 week honeymoon of laughing, loving and of course lots and lots of biking!!

Rich
 
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