Just so you know, a brand new fork has a break in period, and will feel sticky for quite a while until the bushings have been burnished in for a while. That would account for some of the harshness. I have a 2012 36 Van that took almost a whole season to reach its ultimate potential.
Don’t be afraid to deviate from the manufacturer’s recommended settings. I just bought a Marzocchi Z2 (a Fox 34, essentially), and have found that I like it best at around 10 psi less than what the manual recommends. That may change as the fork breaks in and temperatures warm (the warmest ride I’ve done with the fork to date was around 28 degrees F.)
Finally, compression and rebound settings are very personal and condition dependent. Personally, I don’t like much low-speed compression unless I’m riding extremely steep terrain, and then, only enough to keep the front end a bit higher in its travel. I’ve found that air forks really don’t need much added high speed compression because of their inherent progressive nature.
Rebound is also very condition dependent and is impacted by how much pressure you’re running. The more pressure you run, the more rebound damping you’ll need, and vice versa. I like my rebound pretty fast; just enough to control things a bit, and no more. I ride a lot of rough, high speed terrain, and too much rebound damping there makes the fork pack up and not respond fast enough to each successive hit.
If I rode flow trails and more jumps I would run more damping and an overall stiffer setup. Hope that helps!