When your wife bought the hitch did she put in your email address? I dont see how they would have sent an email to you instead, unless your email was enetered on the order form. Just to add to that I had a friend that bought a hitch from them and it had a few scratches on it that he was not happy about. etrailer.com promptly emailed him a return shipping label and took it back with no issues.
John
John