I am in a very similar situation to you. Just started mountain biking with my son a few months ago. I bought him a Commencal Meta HT Junior to upgrade from a 26" rigid fork mountain bike. Basically a mini 27.5" bike with a dropper. Cool little bike. So far I've been trying to keep up with him on my hybrid bike... and it isn't working out!
I'm in Florida so there isn't much elevation in general but the local singletrack has some technical sections, rock gardens, jumps, and the trickiest of all is the sandy sections. There is also a local bike park downhill deal at a former dump (a Florida mountain! HA!) So, I have figured if I am going to buy a bike I might as well buy one that will be "future proof" for me.
I have been looking at Mid Travel Full Suspension 29ers around $2K. Fezzari Abajo Peak, Vittus Escarpe, YT Jeffsy, Canyon Strive, Commencal Meta TR... etc. I love a good "value" so I have mostly been looking at direct brands.
I ordered a Fezzari Abajo Peak ($2,300 or so after adding a dropper and tubeless) after reading good things about the X Fusion McQueen fork for the money; but, it is back ordered and the recent sale that Canyon is running has me looking hard at a Strive 6.0 (18% off $3,299) or Strive 8.0 (25% off $3,999). I also really love the matte black look on the Strive. And I love nifty mechanical stuff so why not the shape shifter?
I originally didn't imagine going carbon even for the frame due to cost (really don't care that much about weight, etc. I am just going to have fun).
The specs on these bikes for the sale price is amazing and can't even be beat by used bikes that I can find. I think most of the upgrades on the 8.0 would not be very noticeable to me. Mostly weight savings. All the reviews I've read the Fox 36 Performance Elite and RockShox Lyrik RC2 are both amazing forks. But, the bang for your buck on these Canyons has me saying. Why not get the $1,299 Reynolds carbon wheels (with a lifetime warranty!), X01 groupset that is significantly more expensive than GX, Carbon Bars, Fox Dropper... etc. for an extra $700!?!?. I put togther a spreadsheet and the component cost (retail) on the 8.0 is at least $1,800 more.
Anyway, your review was perfect for me and actually the trails you are riding are way more similar to my trails than what a lot of the professional reviewers ride out west.
Thanks for posting. If anyone wants to talk me into the 6.0 or 8.0 feel free

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